How To Make Skin Glow

hi friends welcome to a newbeauty & the boutique video with me katie, professionalmakeup artist, stylist and founder of online storebeautyandtheboutique.com. today, i'm gonna chat toyou and hopefully give you tips of things that havehelped me in the past.

How To Make Skin Glow, and it's all about how wecan make ourselves happier each day everyday. a good friend gave me someamazing advice a long time ago, and this advice has really stuck with me.

and it's quite simply totreat yourself like you would treat your best friend. it is that simple. and throughout this videoi'm going to share with you tips as to how you couldimplement that kind of thinking into your everyday life. i'm also going to sharehow that way of thinking has helped me. and i really, i really hopethat this video helps you too.

i don't know about you, buti find it so much easier to forgive a friend thani can forgive myself for something that i've done wrong. so, something i really kindof beat myself up about lately is i forgot a friend's birthday. and when i realised i'd forgotten about it i completely beat myself up about it. and i just felt terrible,it made me seem like such a bad friend.

of course as soon as iremembered i got on the phone, i apologised and promisedto make it up to her. she was totally cool with it. she simply said, d'ya knowwhat we're just all busy and don't worry about iti've done the same myself and yeah let's go outfor dinner brilliant. the truth is i wouldn'tdream of berating my friend the way i kind of beratedmyself for forgetting her birthday.

so with this in mindwhen you make mistakes, be it forgetting a birthday,doing something wrong learn from those mistakes,kind of forgive yourself. give yourself compassion and kindness, just as you would your best friend. learn from it and move on. next time you're going througha really difficult time and in need of really goodsupport treat yourself as you would treat your bestfriend in that situation.

so this advice really cameinto its own some years ago now when my dad passed away. it was a really, reallydifficult time because i was running beauty &the boutique and obviously the business kind ofcarries on and that meant that i had to carry onand put on a smiley face and be ready for work. and i found it really reallyhard, so i took a step back and i thought to myself what advice would

a friend give me right now. and it was to write down three things each nightthat made me feel grateful for the life i had orthe day that i'd had. and sometimes it was assimple as my cat gave me extra cuddles today. you know, it could be the littlest things, but what it helped me do was really focus on the goodness in life.

so when you're goingthrough a difficult time try and take a step backand think of the advice a friend would give you. to give you the courage to keep on going. and take that advice on board. also believe in yourself just as your friends believe in you. cause you do have the strengthand things will get better. this one's really importantbecause we all lead

really really busy livesand it can be extremely hard to find a little piece of me time. and sometimes that me timecan actually make us feel a bit kind of selfishor guilty cause we think we should be doing things for others. but, actually to takesome me time gives you the strength to carry ongiving to others around you. friends, family, work, colleagues etc. if a friend came to you and said,

do you know what i'm feelingreally really stressed, i've got no time to myselfthink about the advice you'd give that friendand then take that advice on board yourself. so for me i took this advice on board. and i thought to myself, whatadvice would a friend give me. because i'd say to the friend,d'ya know what i just don't have the time, where am igoing to find the me time from? and i took a step back andi thought actually a friend

would help give me a solution. and i worked out by thinkingin that kind of mindset way that if i just went to bed half an hour earlier and woke up half an hour earlier i could have 30 minuteseach day to myself. i've just got that extra timeto make myself a cup of tea, listen to my favourite podcast,take a bit of extra time doing my makeup, whichi find really relaxing.

and it just keeps me feelingrefreshed and kind of nourished, ready to take on the day. a friend would tell you thatyou are important enough to make time for yourself in the day. so think long and hard aboutthis and make sure you do it. the next piece of advicei've got for you as to how to use this kind of beingyour own best friend mindset made such a difference to me. and it involved how i saw myself.

so, i'd got myself in such arut with negative self-talk. so, how i've used this, andi've used this in two areas of my life, one is how ikind of see my reflection, or see my body, my skin; andthe other is how i've used this in an everyday kind of work situation. i have quite severe scarring on my legs, and when i'm getting changed or washing to go put swimwearon i feel absolutely, i feel really really self conscious.

and my negative self-talkstarts going into over drive. i think i look repulsive,i worry about what people are going to think of me. i lose all my confidence. and that's when i needto take a step back, and think about would abest friend be saying such negative talk to me aboutthe scarring on my legs? no, they wouldn't, they'dbe turning it around in a positive way and sayingdon't worry you're more

than just scarring. the shape of your legsare nice and you could put makeup cover on them oryou could wear a sarong. you know coming up with solutions and ways to make me feel better. and it's not natural to think like this, cause i think when we feelconscious of something our head quickly goes to the negative. but, it's really importantthat as soon as your head

goes to that negativeyou think to yourself what would a friend say to me. i can guarantee you they'll try and think of a solution or they'lltry and think of a way to say something thatmakes you feel better. in a work situation this works really well because something, some bigchallenge might come about and i'll think oh gosh, howam i going to cope with this. how am i going to solve this?

and rather than thinki can't do something, i think about what afriend would say to me and i know a friendwould say you can do this and you have all theresources in your brain to think of a way to achieve this. and that just helps mereframe things in my head and gives me the confidence to tackle and take on the challenge. so next time you'refeeling particularly hard

on yourself, perhaps yournegative self talk is going into overdrive take a step back and think to yourselfhow would a friend speak to me in this moment. and i hope it will giveyou the confidence and make you feel like you can achieveand that you are enough. i hope this video hasinspired you to really try treating yourself as youwould your best friend. and remember the golden rule.

if you wouldn't say it to a good friend don't say it to yourself. be kind with yourself, bepatient, and be supportive, and i hope in time whenyour really challenge yourself to think in thismindset you'll feel happier every single day. thank you so much for watchingand i shall see you soon in another video, bye.